It’s no secret that life is not easy. Though some difficulties may come seasonally, life offers enough challenges in a variety of different ways to cause many people to be flat out tired and worn down. However, it is a bummer to consider the Bible and see that life was not intended to be this way. God did not create humanity for the purpose of wearing everyone down by life's struggles. Genesis 3:16 explains why life can be so hard. When Adam and Eve ate the fruit from the tree that God commanded them not to eat from, He did show mercy by allowing them the opportunity to repent. God did show grace by first judging sin and the devil before dealing with Adam and Eve. However, since God is fair and just, righteous and holy, Genesis 3:16 documents the consequence for sin.
The Bible shows that God spoke to Eve first. In Genesis 3:16 God stated that the consequence for Eve's sin would be two-fold. First, Eve, and all women to follow, would experience great pain and anguish in child birth. God stated that women would give birth in great labor. As any woman that has given birth knows, this is a brutal consequence. Where this consequence becomes even more difficult to realize is when one considers the command that God gave to Adam and Eve before they sinned. The command was to be fruitful, multiply and fill the earth. God desired many more people to be in the world. He made it as big as it is in order to fill it with people. However, the manner in which women would participate in the command that God gave would come with great pain. Hence, the consequence of sin is seen to be far more severe than the physical pain of child labor. The consequence of sin proves to add tremendous difficulty and pain just to practice obedience to God's commands. In order for Eve to be obedient to God's command to be fruitful and multiply, she would have to knowingly endure pain and anguish. Such is part of the reason why Jesus had to suffer and then die for sin. The Bible teaches that the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23). Eve would have to die to herself and her physical comforts in order to be obedient to the command of God to be fruitful and multiply.
The second form of judgment that was issued to Eve was through her relationship with her husband. Genesis 3:16 shows that Eve would desire her husband, but that her husband would dominate and rule over her. The Hebrew word that is used for "desire" is one that describes and intense longing or craving. The Bible uses this word only 2 other times in the Old Testament to describe the desire sin has to destroy us (Genesis 4:7) and the intense desire the Shulamite had for Solomon (Song of Solomon 7:10). The Bible describes that Eve would have this intense longing for her husband; however, this intense longing would not be reciprocated. Instead, Genesis 3:16 explains that the husband would "rule over" the wife. He would not meet the expectation of the wife in terms of the affectionate desire. Instead, the husband would have dominion over the wife and seek to lord and govern over her. Though God created Adam and Eve as equals, the consequence of sin as documented in Genesis 3:16 would cause this disconnect in marriage. The wife would have one desire and expectation while the husband would have another. Consequently, neither expectation would be met, so that the foundation for struggle within marriage was laid.
This was not the way God created marriage. The Bible shows that sin is what caused friction to enter into the marriage relationship. The Bible shows that sin is the cause of the communication disconnect that exists in every marriage. Though it is true that every husband doesn't seek to dominate his wife, and not every wife desires her husband, one can observe the affects that sin had on marriage. God created the marriage relationship to show that two people can function as one person, illustrating the relationship between God and Jesus, as well as between Jesus and the church. However, sin caused marriage to be divided by expectation, motive and communication. Genesis 3:16 clearly shows that Adam and Eve would no longer be on the same page, and there would be great difficulty to try and be on the same page. Any married couple knows this to be true. This difficulty begins even before marriage. Many young girls have imagined their wedding and pretended to be married. Its not often you'll find young boys imagining and pretending the same things. While some young girls are picturing their dress, some young boys are picturing themselves blowing things up. The desire that a female has to have a husband can be seen even at young ages. The disconnect between males and females can also be seen at a young age. What God designed to make one, sin split apart.
The wages of sin is death, but the affects of sin until death present incredible difficulty. Thus, the Bible makes is clear: in order to overcome the difficulties of life as a result of sin, one must seek to live outside of sin, and the Bible teaches that the only way to do that is with the Holy Spirit, which one is given when one places trust in the identity and purpose of Jesus Christ. The Bible teaches that sin can be overcome, but only through Jesus Christ!